Yes, "Cis" is a Slur.
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Occasionally while scrolling through Tiktok, I’ll come across Lives of leftists insisting “cis” isn’t a slur and women are only pretending to be offended by the term “cisgender.”
I assure you, it is a slur and many women find the term offensive. If you’re a normal person who hasn’t been exposed to all of this madness, you might be wondering what cisgender even means. Simply put, it means you identify as your “assigned gender” or biological sex.
Now, what exactly is wrong with using that term for identification purposes? I can’t speak for all women, but I will tell you that “cisgender” is demeaning. It’s demeaning because it diminishes women. It diminishes women because cisgender is a sledgehammer used to bust up the firm foundation of what a woman is and erect a flag that says, “transwomen are women,” and that’s just not true.
It doesn’t matter what you call yourself, what you wear, how you do your hair and makeup, what drugs you take, or how much a surgeon carves your body; a man will always be a man. Transwomen are chasing a pot of gold at the end of a never-ending rainbow.
Trans activists will push back and say things like, “Oh, you want to reduce a woman down to her genitals or her biology?” What is the alternative? Should we reduce women down to a mood ring? Despite what Macy Gray was bullied into saying, womanhood is not a “vibe.”
There is no particular virtue in being a woman. I had no say in that. When my father’s gametes (sperm) met my mother’s gametes (ova), I came into being. My sex was determined in the womb. I simply am what I am.
Who I am is much more interesting. My relationships, the knowledge I acquire, the moral choices I make, my faith, and my experiences forge who I am. So, I’m certainly not reduced down to my sex organs, but my biology has deeply shaped my experiences, and it has in the lives of every other woman.
It is so bizarre when transwomen claim to experience periods, or when politicians pander and try to make a menstrual cycle anything other than a biological distinction for women. To be as frank as possible, having a period feels like a xenomorph from Aliens is trying to impregnate me from the front of my vagina and is trying to escape through my butthole. Granted, not all women experience the same symptoms and they’re not always so severe, but are you gonna tell me that men can relate to what I’ve been experiencing every month for the past 22 years? How often have they purchased feminine products? Have they ever faced the embarrassment of bleeding through a pair of pants? And what about in other countries where girls miss out on school during their periods because they don’t have access to feminine products and don’t want to use tissue or old clothes to absorb the blood?
When a man doesn’t have a period, he doesn’t experience the terror or the excitement of wondering if he’s pregnant. If companies decided to ruthlessly enact the best policies for their bottom line and got rid of maternity leave, men might think, “Oh, that sucks.” Women would see it as a personal attack on their careers and livelihoods because we are not the same. Men can start making families later in life without worrying about their fertility because we are not the same. “High-value” men will go score themselves a young woman to make sure he has a woman fertile enough to bear them some heirs. We are not the same. When abortion restrictions are enacted, why do activists say, “They’re trying to control women?” Because we are not the same. I hear pro-choice women emphatically say, “Men have no say in abortion.”
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When men say they “feel” like women, they have no idea how to validate that statement. They can relate to certain experiences—like worrying about how they’ll put food on the table to feed their kid—but they’ll never have to worry about why their baby isn’t properly latching onto their nipple. The best they can do is make an estimated guess. If a man has thoughts and feelings that he thinks are like “women,” that doesn’t make him a woman. It means that men are also capable of the same thoughts and feelings. Maybe you’re an unusual man, but it doesn’t qualify you as a woman. But, there is also the possibility he’s absolutely wrong about his perception of how women think and feel.
Gender is not a social construct. Sex and gender are meaningfully intertwined. According to the etymology, the two words have been and are used interchangeably. Feminists can take the blame for morphing gender into a role in an attempt to break away from social restraints and undesired expectations, but a role is something you can either fill or play. Some aspects of womanhood cannot be mimicked. Only stereotypes can be replicated. Transwomen are method actors and activists like Dylan Mulvaney deserve Razzies, not Oscars.
I recently asked someone to define a woman. They said, “A social construct imposed on those with certain physical characteristics, but is not strictly connected to those physical characteristics. Not to mention any attempt to define ‘woman’ with any certainty would undoubtedly exclude [a] woman from the definition in some form.”
But let’s talk about those physical characteristics. Women have a wider hip and pelvis, so our babies can pass through. Women have mammary glands in their breasts, so we can feed our infant children. A mature woman’s body is always preparing for pregnancy. That’s why our uterine lining builds up. And if we’re not pregnant, it sheds. That’s why we have a menstrual cycle.
Trans activists will bring up the fact that not all women can get pregnant, but it’s in our inherent nature as women to do so. If we can’t, then something is wrong with our bodies. For many women who suffer from infertility, this is a source of pain. Using it as a crowbar so transwomen can break into our gender is emotionally criminal.
Unlike the terms sex and gender, men and women are not interchangeable. They are not interchangeable because women were designed to do what men can’t.
Transwomen are men, and it shouldn’t be controversial or even transphobic to say that. There is no shame in not being what you aren’t. And there’s no shame in being what you are.
If you suffer from gender dysphoria, I have the utmost sympathy for your situation. But how you feel and the actions you take are different. If who you choose to be is someone who takes your perceptions and transforms them into the insistence of a falsehood—demanding everyone to buy in—that’s where I push back.
You may argue, “I’m just trying to be accurate with my terminology. ‘Cisgender’ is in the dictionary.” So is “nigger,” but you wouldn’t call me that to my face just because I’m black. You understand it’s offensive and it’s not your place to call me that. So, yes, “cis” is a slur. It’s a derogatory term meant to enforce a lie.
